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A Thanksgiving Meal for Our Homeless Clients

John and I volunteer on Monday’s at a Homeless Center in Auburn; I interview the clients and John is the shower guy.  After being interviewed, they pick out clean clothes then go to the shower.  (There are 4 shower stalls and John cleans them after every client)  https://www.aubsda.org/

Yesterday, the center held a Thanksgiving Dinner for our clients.  It was awesome and I have never seen so many smiles at one time on their faces.

So, two weeks before the dinner, and in order to know how much food we needed, the interviewers, that’s me, asked clients if they would attend the dinner.

It nearly broke my heart when many of them nodded, then dropped their head and said, “Yes, thank you, thank you.  I don’t have anywhere to go to have a Thanksgiving meal”.

I’m posting this puzzle picture because it portrays how the homeless feel.  Forsaken, forgotten, lost, abandoned, isolated.  John and I feel that the homeless are part of our community, like a piece in a puzzle, and if we can make one day a little bit better for them, then we have helped our fellowman.

We Can Never Lose HOPE….

 

 

 

 

 

Kindness, Love

The Hero’s In My Life

Like many people, I have several hero’s that I hold in high regard.  Most of them, for me anyway, are women who have inspired me, taken chances and usually succeeded, stepped outside their comfort zone to achieve their goal(s). 

#1. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross-A Swiss-American psychiatrist, a pioneer in near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying (1969), where she first discussed her theory of the five stages of grief, also known as the “Kübler-Ross model”.   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisabeth_K%C3%BCbler-Ross 

Since I worked in hospice for 10 years, I’m grateful to her for starting the conversation on dying and how hospice can assist the dying to have the highest quality to their life until they pass.  She created the first hospice house in England, and the hospice idea moved to the U.S. in the 1960’s.

#2.  Mother Teresa-Known in the Catholic Church as Saint Teresa of Calcutta, was an Albanian-Indian Roman Catholic nun and missionary. This woman emits unselfishness, kindness, love and hope.   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother_Teresa  

#3.  Lora, Marcia and Cindy, are my hero’s not just because they had Huntington’s disease; it was their attitude towards life, and how precious it was to them despite their circumstance.  Also, they were the kindest, most generous, positive women I’ve ever met.   What is Huntington’s disease 

Therese’s memoir/nonfiction book, Watching Their Dance: Three Sisters, a Genetic Disease and Marrying into a Family At Risk for Huntington’s, is available on her author website  http://www.theresecrutchermarin.com   & on Amazon, B&N, & in Kindle, Kobo, Nook, iBooks format.

100% of the proceeds from Therese’s book is being donated to HD organizations around the world.

We Can Never Lose Hope………………..

 

Kindness, Love

The Wind Beneath My Wings

One of my favorite songs is The Wind Beneath My Wings by Bette Midler; from the movie Beaches. The song depicts the relationship between two woman, Bette Midler and Barbara Hersey, and their undying friendship, love and devotion despite their differences. I love Bette Midler as an actress and singer.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beaches_(film) 

Whenever I hear it on the radio, I think of my husband, John Anthony Marin, my rock, my ever positive influencer in my life, the most resilient person I know, who kept me from shrinking into the depth of despair as each sister-in-law left this world because of Huntington’s disease.   http://www.hdsa.org 

John was the wind that supported me as we traveled through turbulent times in our life; he is still my biggest supporter and I would fall to the earth without him.  We now travel together into a smooth, calm breeze of peace and tranquility. 

So I ask you.  Who is the wind beneath your wings?  

Therese’s memoir/nonfiction book, Watching Their Dance: Three Sisters, a Genetic Disease and Marrying into a Family At Risk for Huntington’s, is available on her author website  http://www.theresecrutchermarin.com   & on Amazon, B&N, & in Kindle, Kobo, Nook, iBooks format.

100% of the proceeds from Therese’s book sold in the U.S. will be donated to HDSA.  http://www.hdsa.org     Therese and John donated $9,015.00 to HDSA that is the profit from book sales since Therese published in April 2017.

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About Author, Kindness

Remembering Marjorie Guthrie

In 1978, John and I were college sweethearts and planned to marry after we graduated. At the end of that year, my world was turned upside down when Lora, Marcia and Cindy, John’s sisters, discovered the Marin (Cahoon) family secret……………..Huntington’s disease.

Needless to say, the information about HD shook me to my core. At that time, I hadn’t lost anyone close to me; I still had both set of grandparents and both parents. Not knowing what to do, I wrote a letter to the Committee to Combat Huntington’s Disease in New York asking for information.  Marjorie Guthrie, Arlo and Nora Guthrie’s mother, founded the committee in 1967 and was the President of the organization. Marjorie sent me a personal note.  She praised me for not deserting my young man, though at the time I wasn’t sure I could handle living with his horrific disease hovering over us, and she hoped after reading the information she sent I would be inspired to “join” them. She even mentioned starting a Chapter in Sacramento.

Later, the Committee to Combat Huntington’s Disease became Huntington’s Disease Society of America (HDSA). There are now 52 Chapters across the U.S.  http://www.hdsa.org

I still have the information Marjorie sent me in December 1978, and it was helpful to have all the facts because at that time there was not much written information about HD.

To find out  how I found my way back to the man I loved, John Anthony Marin and our life journey together with Huntington’s disease, you’ll just have to read my book.

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Have a good day!  Therese

Kindness

“Be Kind to One Another”

I don’t usually watch the Ellen DeGeneres show but I did catch it the other day and what I enjoyed was the statement she made at the end of the show; “Be kind to one another”.  I can’t agree more.  Being an empathetic person, a gift I received from my mother, I’m an advocate for being kind to one another. It seems our world has forgotten this gesture which doesn’t take any longer than being rude or unsympathetic.

6d25bfc2e024d954e5382c5dc128ab27I wanted to share a unique website, it’s a project really, I found interesting on kindness that two f9b43e93c3854ebe37443ea877c915a0self-centered New Yorkers, Jessica Walsh and Timothy Goodman, who often focused on what’s ahead instead of what’s around them, created. The project is a series of 12 steps as a way to become kinder, more empathetic people. As a resolution, they practiced this for 12 months.

Website:  http://12kindsofkindness.com/about/     Here is a video overview of the project. https://youtu.be/ReK2tIHzVlU

These are their 12 steps of kindness:

Jessica and Timothy are the creators of the blog and book, 40 Days of Dating. They co-teach together at the School of Visual Arts in New York City.

Have a good day!  Therese

Kindness

An Act of Kindness At The Olympics

 

I had to post the act of kindness I witnessed the other night at the Olympics between two women runners, Abbey D’Agostino, an American and Nikki Hamblin, an Australian, who collided during a 5000 meter run. Since this occurred at The Olympic Games, the world’s biggest sporting spectacle, and because the tweet has gone viral, it has given me hope that kindness can be embraced by folks around the world.

The definition of the word “kindness” is simple:  “the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate”; a simple act that sends a message from one heart to another, an act of love, an unspoken “I care” statement.

I commend Abbey and Nikki, and as far as I’m concerned they both won gold in the category of “humanity” because the two of 15910043680_5b040e7726_cthem managed to finish the race due to a combined act of kindness.mother-teresa

As Mother Teresa said, “We can do no great things, only small things with great love”.

Article on Abbey and Nikki:

https://www.romper.com/p/who-are-abbey-dagostino-nikki-hamblin-their-act-of-kindness-is-going-viral-16535

Have a good day!  Therese

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Kindness

You Never Know When You Make A Difference in Someone’s Life

Every Tuesday for the past several years, I have worked (voluntered) at a medical clinic in Auburn for the homeless which is also open to locals who are low income and do not have dental, chiropractic, eye, mental health, or counseling coverage.  The only criteria to receive services is that they live in the greater Auburn area.  And we believe them when they say they have no coverage.

Last Tuesday, a gal, about 30 years old, walked in and since I check people in and give them paperwork to fill out I usually hear dalailama378036about their dilemma. I listen as patiently as I can, with a line forming behind them, because I believe they deserve to be heard.  This particular gal stated she was in rehab at X facility and had run out of her antidepressants and needed a refill.  She went on to tell me she was an alcoholic and how she really needed them to stay sober.  As she finished her story, I smiled and said to her, “I’m so sorry for your struggle.”  She handed me her paperwork, and I thanked her and said, “You know, you look really good today.”  She teared up and said, “Thank you for saying that; you don’t know what that means to me.”  Her reaction and reply reinforced what I believe; a positive, kind word or act can make someone’s day.

Have a good day!  Therese

 

 

Helping Others, Kindness

John Marin-Giving To Others in Auburn California

IMG_2707John is known as the “Shower Man” on Tuesdays at the Community Center at the Seventh Day IMG_2706Adventist Church in Auburn.  Both of us volunteer that day to help our fellow man and woman who aren’t as fortunate as we are.  John can be found in the shower area, from at 8:30 a.m. to around 12:30, cleaning shower pods (they have 4 shower pods) after clients have finished.  It’s a dirty job, but someone’s got to do it.  As you can see from the pictures, outside the shower pods is an area where the folks can shave their beard or head if they so desire. Besides, cleaning showers, John is on two community boards in Auburn: The Placer Land Trust and Placer Arts.  http://www.placerlandtrust.org/welcome-john-marin-to-our-board-of-directors/        and

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At the end of the day, as we eat dinner, John will share how it went that day with the shower clients. (Some of the homeless clients are addicts and/or alcoholics) John’s a big, level headed guy and can deal with them.  Usually by the time he’s telling me the story he’s sad for the individuals and their circumstances.

John and my religion is KINDNESShttp://www.dalailamaquotes.org/category/dalai-lama-quotes-on-kindness/

Have a good day!   Therese

Grief, Kindness

The New Normal-After A Loss

270428692_00ac009db4_oThe New Normal for my sister, Ellen, having lost her husband, Rod, in a car accident, is something completely different from anything she’s known before.  Her life will never be the same.  I’m sure normal seems far, far away from her. Unless you have lost someone dear to you, it’s hard to understand how difficult this experience is.  So I ask the world, “Please be kind to those who are grieving,” and don’t be afraid to be around them, or call them, or send them a kind note, or send an email saying you’re thinking of them.  It means a lot.

 Have a good day!   Therese

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Huntington's Disease, Kindness

The Challenges of Huntington’s disease

The photo above is of inspiring Nancy Wexler, Geneticist. Best known for finding the location of the gene that causes Huntington’s Disease.

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ATTENTION WORLD……..PAY ATTENTION!!!!!  I already posted this on my Facebook Authors page a few weeks ago but had to do it on my website because it’s so important. John Grey (picture above) has Huntington’s disease and because his gait has been impacted by the disease, he walks in a swimming like motion that people often confuse with being drunk.  Below is the article.

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/springhill-man-sick-of-drunk-accusations-over-genetic-disorder-1.2496373

This exact thing happened to my s-i-l, Cindy when she was staying with us over Thanksgiving weekend, with her dad, in 2003.  She’d left our property, without anyone seeing her, to take a walk with her dog, Kayla.  When we discovered she was missing, we were all about to head out to look for her, when a Placer County Sheriff patrol car turned in our driveway with Cindy in the back.  The officer told us someone, in our neighborhood, called and said there was a drunk, homeless woman walking the streets of Christian Valley.   Boy, I could have spit bullets, upset that people assume the worst.  This is why people with HD become isolated because their symptoms are unusual, different and people aren’t educated about this rare disease.

Please world………..be kind.

Have a good day and thanks for reading my posts.   Therese

 

 

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